Does Control Really Reduce Anxiety?
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What does it really mean to control people or situation and does control really reduce anxiety? For me, I learned that it does not.
Our Wounds Follow Us on Vacation
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Paradise is no longer on the outside because our wounds aren’t going away when we’re on a beach – yes, our wounds follow us on vacation.
How Do You Feel About You?
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Things are so different today, and I’m not talking only about me, things are way different for everyone. Time is moving so fast and situations are condensed. Nothing is dragged out for years anymore.
Tradeoffs Are Expensive
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Continuing to push your desires under the rug will not last, you will inevitably be forced to live them. The choice is ALWAYS yours, but tradeoffs will get more expensive as time goes on.
Change Is for Other People
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Opportunities to do what you NEVER thought you could do – make those tough changes that only “other” people are strong enough to make.
Where Is Your Skinny Cow?
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In a hurry, the man runs to get his skinny cow and heads to the village to sell it, it’s all he had.
Life Is a Team Effort, So Is Healing From Trauma
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One has to realize that just like life is a total team effort for all of us to thrive, so is healing from trauma.
Sometimes Support and Kindness Show Up When You Least Expect It
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We all want that support and kindness that we truly deserve, and sometimes it comes from people that you least expect it from.
I Wasn’t Ready for Healthy
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I just wasn’t strong enough yet and had to go through more learning experiences – I wasn’t ready for healthy.
YOU Need to Change So Things Will Get Better
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The belief that I had to somehow change, be it within myself or my outside behavior, to make other people happy really taught me that I was not good enough just as I was.